We don’t all need to become self-declared mental health advocates who shout about it from the rooftops. But there are things we can do.
If someone talks about their mental health to you, be receptive, be open. If you don’t get it, fine. Just by listening you will show acceptance and help to reduce the stress. And, unless they do it, don’t feel the need to shut the door or lower the volume of your voice. If they are happy to be open about it, don’t discourage it.
Make mental health a normal part of conversation with children,friends family. Help them learn to name and identify their emotions. If they cry, avoid your protective instinct, and allow them to feel and express their pain. Discuss how they deal with anxiety or moments of stress. Model having time out when it all gets too much. They observe and learn from our every move. If we show it is ok to talk about metal health, they will hopefully be more open.
If you connect with an article, a quote or a meme about mental health, like it, love it, share it, comment publicly and encourage others to do the same thing. It’s amazing how often I get a limited response until one person comments. That seems to open the floodgates and others comment too. Don’t be afraid to be the first person – take the lead!
When you ask someone how they are, really listen to their response. Look at their body language, follow your gut. If their “fine thanks” wasn’t quite right, suggest a way out ,chat make them feel real better in that bitter conditions. And don’t be afraid to start the conversation:
“I’ve noticed you’re not yourself these days.”
“You seem to be struggling at the moment.”
“Are you sleeping and eating properly?”
Little things really help a lot.
If someone reaches out to you, please try not to be frightened by it. Check that they have the support they need, make your boundaries clear but don’t just disappear. Even the odd encouraging text message can make such a difference to limiting loneliness.
By Er.Saurabh Mishra
International Counsellor & Life coach
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